The mentality change plays an important role in the process of creation of the well being for the family, the neighbourhood, the city and the country.
The family planning is a technique which allows families to determine the number of children they want to give birth to and when to have them.
It allows also a country to manage rationally its demography.
The family planning is one of the ways by which families can help the world to adapt to the reality according to which the world resources are limited.
In D.R. Congo, especially in the south kivu province, families have not believed in the family planning yet. There are so many reasons which cause them to not believe in it:
– kids are God’s blessings, this being, every Christian that uses the family planning is against God’s will.
– the infant mortality is high: families in D.R. Congo consider the fact of having a large number of kids as a response to the infant mortality.
– kids used to be, in the former time, a sign of wealth and power.
What I have noticed, after a long time of observation, is that when a family that lives with insufficient resources decide to give birth to a large number of kids, that family prepares its own failure.
D.R. Congo is the country where those in power do not give any service to the citizens. While healthcare and basic education are funded by the government in other countries, in D.R. Congo, parents are still the ones struggling to fund the healthcare and the basic education.
According to a report published by the UN programme for the development in 2011, more than 71 % of Congolese live with less than a dollar per day. The same report says that about 80 % of Congolese are unemployed, which means they have no revenue. But they continue giving birth to a large number of kids who when they will get sick, they won’t have the chance to see a doctor, when they will reach the school age, they won’t have the chance to sit in front of a teacher. They continue giving birth to a large number of kids who will never drink potable water or eat a nutritious food.
The situation described above is the one at the root of the high rate of the infant mortality in D.R. Congo.
In D.R. Congo, a family of 10 persons can share a piece of fish found after the mother’s inhuman struggle. And the big part of that piece of fish will be given to the father, chief of the family who always allocates his poor revenue to beer or to the payment of a ticket to watch football match on TV. The smallest part will be shared among the mother and the kids.
The family planning is a salvation for Congolese mothers who are coerced by their husbands and church leaders to give birth regularly. But given they have nothing to say about their body, then they can only admire the family planning but they cannot enjoy it.
The non-use of the planning family puts women life as well as kids life at risk: women who give birth every year have no time to work in order to produce the revenue; women who give birth every year lose a lot of energy and do not have access to the nutritious food to get it back; women who give birth every year do not have enough time to rest because their families rely of them; women who give birth do not save money because to each delivery, which often requires caesarean, they will have to pay a lot of money. Some of them, after having delivered, have to stay in the hospital for months, because they lack the money to pay in order to be released. Others who want to go home and who do not have money to pay, can leave the document of their house or something important they have in their house in the hands of the hospital manager as a pledge in order to be released.
Women are just passing through this terrible situation because they did not get a chance to go to school. The basic education remains something expensive a poor parent cannot give to his children. Parents who work hard to find some money will prefer to send their male children in school and ask female children to behave well in order get married quickly because the revenue the family makes cannot send both male and female children in school.
When a woman misses education, she misses the right to own her body, her life and her future. When a woman misses education, she misses the right to decide when to have babies and how many she wants to have. When a woman misses education she becomes a machine of making babies any man can own.